Yearly Archives: 2015


What would Jesus do about Coercive Control?

The season of joy is here: church bells are ringing, choirs are singing, gifts are being given. There are trees, lights, tinsels, mince pies, mulled wine and more. In the frenzy of festivities, it is easy to overlook the often ‘invisible’ plight of the woman in an abusive relationship. She’d most likely overlook it herself, perhaps being unaware that she is really being abused; perhaps thinking that she could get it ‘right’ this time, and, for once, Christmas would truly be happy for her and her kids when the doors are shut after the guests have all gone home….And many a guest would choose to believe the dress rehearsal of bliss that they see over the suspicious signs of fear and a change in character in their loved one who is being abused . . . even if she drops a hint, or dares to confide that things are not as pretty as they seem… Therein lies one of the most difficult challenges of combatting domestic abuse. The silence.  […]

By | December 20th, 2015|Beauty's Story|0 Comments

Is that door really locked? Is there really no way through?

Is that barrier really fixed? Is there really no going through that gate? Is it a barrier or a gateway? Having taken an unscheduled but necessary break from blogging, the decision to pick it up again brought me great anticipation: which of the various ideas bubbling within me will make their way into the world at this time? The one theme that will not go away is that things are not always as they seem; and what may appear as a firmly locked door may actually be waiting for you to give it a little push. For instance, on a rainy morning recently, I dashed out of the house, altered my route partly because my usual route had delays. I was 10 minutes away from work when I realised I’d left my security pass at home. Now, like most modern office buildings, ours is large one, sprawled across multiple floors with multiple entry and exit points accessible only by the swiping of a pass. Getting into work without your pass means queueing up at Security to get a temporary one issued; then as my locker key was attached to my pass, I had to get somebody from Facilities to unlock my locker with a master key; and then I needed a special code to enable me use the printers. […]

By | November 8th, 2015|Clearing Pathways|0 Comments