Yearly Archives: 2018

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Lessons from Jersey: Healing, Freedom and Being Present

Jesery taught me some principles of healing, freedom and being present … It was only two days into my holiday and it might as well have been over. My feet were hurting. Terribly. My legs were achy and wobbly, especially behind my knees. My thighs were throbbing and ankles sore. When I moved, it felt like I’d been carrying lead plastered all over my body.  […]

By | September 16th, 2018|Uncategorised|0 Comments

What is your aim for Counselling? What do you want out of it?

What is your aim for counselling? As a client, what do you want out of it? As a counsellor, why do you do it? I'd called an ‘emergency’ supervision session because I was still reeling from two of the counselling sessions I’d had the day before: one in my private practice and the other in [...]

By | August 28th, 2018|Uncategorised|0 Comments

How Do You Cope with Projected Shame?

The shame we feel for failing in some way is bad enough and can keep us stuck.  See here for my earlier article on how to get unstuck from shame.  However, projected shame - the shame that rightfully belong to someone else which we unwittingly carry, can be even more crushing.  This can come about [...]

By | August 20th, 2018|Emotions|0 Comments

Midlife Depression: Message in a Bottle?

If your midlife depression were speaking, what would it be saying to you?  Did it come on suddenly?  Or is an old familiar friend?  In any case, could your depression be a message in a bottle?  Would you like to read this message? Midlife depression: is it telling you something? Check out my [...]

By | August 5th, 2018|Emotions, Health & Healing|2 Comments

How Shame Keeps You Stuck and What You Can Do About It

What a shame!  Even with the best intentions, we fall short, and feel shame.  For example, I’d had a very busy week.  Come Saturday morning, I thought I’d get up to speed with all my outstanding financial matters.   Just as I heaved a sigh of relief on completion, I received a message chasing up a payment.  I could have cried with embarrassment.   […]

By | July 16th, 2018|Emotions|0 Comments