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⁉️ Are you struggling with loneliness and isolation- probably because of your profession? ⁉️ Do you find that you are often ‘looking after’ friends and family and don’t feel comfortable sharing your own struggles with them? ⁉️ What issues are blocking your vision, stopping you from moving forward or being your best and keeping you stuck and frustrated? […]

By | May 7th, 2021|Categories: Uncategorised|0 Comments

12 steps to rebuild your life after domestic abuse

First published on Life Coach Directory: https://www.lifecoach-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/12-steps-to-rebuild-your-life-after-domestic-abuse Survivors of domestic abuse can find themselves in a weird space: some have described it as a limbo, others as a no-man’s land, stuck in an unending stretch of grey.  Some have felt like they are lost in wilderness of confusion, uncertainty and doubt. The situation is that they are no longer in the abusive relationship. However, their experiences in the relationship have so impacted them that they are not where they were before the abusive relationship. Indeed, they might even feel that they are no longer who they were as a person, before they got entangled in the relationship. […]

By | May 7th, 2021|Categories: Uncategorised|0 Comments

5 reasons you’re still trapped after domestic abuse

First published on Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/5-reasons-youre-still-trapped-after-domestic-abuse One of my pet peeves in any discussion on the subject of domestic abuse is the question: “Why doesn’t *she leave?”  It’s extremely invalidating when the question is asked directly of the victim/survivor by those to whom she turns to for support.  Indeed, it can be devastating.  It can reinforce for the victim/survivor the experience of being blamed for the abuse they are receiving.  It can re-traumatize the victim/survivor. The more appropriate question should be, “Why does *he keep doing that?”  However, exploring this question further is subject for another article. […]

By | March 7th, 2021|Categories: Uncategorised|0 Comments

Lessons from Jersey: Healing, Freedom and Being Present

Jesery taught me some principles of healing, freedom and being present … It was only two days into my holiday and it might as well have been over. My feet were hurting. Terribly. My legs were achy and wobbly, especially behind my knees. My thighs were throbbing and ankles sore. When I moved, it felt like I’d been carrying lead plastered all over my body.  […]

By | September 16th, 2018|Categories: Uncategorised|0 Comments

What is your aim for Counselling? What do you want out of it?

What is your aim for counselling? As a client, what do you want out of it? As a counsellor, why do you do it? I'd called an ‘emergency’ supervision session because I was still reeling [...]

By | August 28th, 2018|Categories: Uncategorised|Tags: , , |0 Comments

How Do You Cope with Projected Shame?

The shame we feel for failing in some way is bad enough and can keep us stuck.  See here for my earlier article on how to get unstuck from shame.  However, projected shame - the [...]

By | August 20th, 2018|Categories: Emotions|Tags: , |0 Comments