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⁉️ Are you struggling with loneliness and isolation- probably because of your profession? ⁉️ Do you find that you are often ‘looking after’ friends and family and
12 steps to rebuild your life after domestic abuse
First published on Life Coach Directory: https://www.lifecoach-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/12-steps-to-rebuild-your-life-after-domestic-abuse Survivors of domestic abuse can find themselves in a weird space: some have described it as a limbo,
5 reasons you’re still trapped after domestic abuse
First published on Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/5-reasons-youre-still-trapped-after-domestic-abuse One of my pet peeves in any discussion on the subject of domestic abuse is the question: “Why doesn’t
Lessons from Jersey: Healing, Freedom and Being Present
Jesery taught me some principles of healing, freedom and being present … It was only two days into my holiday and it might as well
What is your aim for Counselling? What do you want out of it?
What is your aim for counselling? As a client, what do you want out of it? As a counsellor, why do you do it? I’d
How Do You Cope with Projected Shame?
The shame we feel for failing in some way is bad enough and can keep us stuck. See here for my earlier article on how
Midlife Depression: Message in a Bottle?
If your midlife depression were speaking, what would it be saying to you? Did it come on suddenly? Or is an old familiar friend? In
How Shame Keeps You Stuck and What You Can Do About It
What a shame! Even with the best intentions, we fall short, and feel shame. For example, I’d had a very busy week. Come Saturday morning,
Tips on Living Free – Evita, the Legacy of Eva Peron
How would you like yours to be a story of survival and triumph that transcends into immortality? I went to see Evita the musical with
Here’s Why You Continue To Be A Doormat And What You Can Do To Stand Up For Yourself And Go After What You Really Really Want!
Do you find yourself saying yes when you really really wanted to say no? Would you like to stop being a doormat and stand up
Lessons from Changing Colours, Changing Moods
Having sort of planned in my head to get a proper pedicure done (as opposed to the DIY variety) I eventually seized the moment recently.
Here’s How to Change Your Current Reality Especially If It’s Toxic or Doesn’t Serve You, So you can Defy It – Even if Nothing’s Worked Before!
Precisely 5 years ago to the exact month of my business launch, my marriage officially came to an end – after nearly two and a
Why You Need to Speak Up
Dear Blossom How are you doing, in this season of goodwill? Are you looking forward to the big Christmas day/weekend? To spending time with family
If you want a change, make a change
Dear Blossom It’s amazing how the outdoors gives one a fresh perspective. I find it fascinating how engaging with nature, just going for a walk,
With Whom Do You Hang Out?
Dear Blossom Have a quick review of the last 6 weeks: where did you spend most of your time? Who did you spend significant moments
How to Breakthrough with Confidence
Dear Blossom The Confidence Breakthrough seminar was the place to be in London over this weekend (5th and 6th Nov). Attendees experienced massive shifts as
Lessons from the Challenge
Dear Blossom So here we are, at the 30th blog over a period of 41 days – much more than I’ve ever done across a
Dealing with Judgement – Part 3: Who?
Dear Blossom Imagine being able to be the same person on the outside, as you are on the inside. How free would you feel? How
Dealing with Judgement – Part 2: How?
Dear Blossom Yesterday we were thinking about why we need to deal with judgement. A quick recap: living under a cloud of judgement stops us
Dealing with Judgement – Part 1: Why?
Dear Blossom I just got off a Facebook Live broadcast where I was talking about the ‘whys’ of dealing with judgement. Rather than go over
What has Confidence got to do with Community?
Dear Blossom I had a good time with my community of retreatants and retreat guides at the Crossroad Retreats last week. On my return, I’ve
Retreating at Crossroads
Dear Blossom According to Socrates, an unexamined life is not worth living. What do you think? When was the last time you took some time
More on Procrastination
Dear Blossom Continuing along my train of thought of yesterday… I woke up in the small hours this morning for a bathroom break and then couldn’t
Is It Really Procrastination?
Dear Blossom When we put off doing things that we say we want to do, and keep putting them off and beat ourselves around the
I’ve Got Mindfulness on My Mind
Dear Blossom I have mindfulness on my mind tonight but find I can’t immediately see what it is I really want to say about it.
When Did You Last Enjoy Who You Are?
When did you last enjoy who you are? When did you really get pleasure from who you are? Still chewing over Claire Anstey’s challenge as
Expressing Yourself Mask-Free
Dear Blossom About a couple of weeks ago I was at the StoryHouse.Rocks live event titled Leave Your Mask at the Stage Door. It was
Express Yourself
Dear Blossom I love Strictly Come Dancing. For the uninitiated, it’s the BBC’s reality TV show where celebrities who don’t usually dance are paired with
Strengths? What Strengths?
Dear Blossom It’s amazing – and sad – the number of people I come across who are much more aware of their weaknesses than they
Take a Mindful Moment
Dear Blossom I’ve had mindfulness on my mind today. Sitting down to write to you about it, I find all I want to say is:
What’s Holding You Back?
Dear Blossom There’s something about the autumn sun: it can be so bright that I forget how cold it actually is. The cold is something
Don’t Stop Believing!
Dear Blossom I woke up from a near nightmare this morning. ‘Near’ only because in the midst of the troubled waters where I found myself,
Celebrating Nigeria’s Independence… and Mine!
Dear Blossom Fifty – six years ago, Nigeria gained her status as an independent country: no longer a colony of Britain. Still a member of
Leisure
Dear Blossom What is this life if, full of care, We have no time to stand and stare. I’ve got W H Davies poem, Leisure,
Post Workshop Musings…
Dear Blossom My workshop went so very well on Wednesday night! I haven’t had my celebration with Bridget Jones’s Baby yet – but that will
Time Out
Dear Blossom Another long day which this time involved travelling from one end of London on the tube to the other. It was a good
Butterflies of excitement and nerves
Dear Blossom In a couple of days, I’ll be running my Stop Being Lost – Rediscover Your Path workshop. And I’m trying to objectively look
I just wanna scream!
Dear Blossom I’ve just closed a 2 paged document that I’ve been working on for the past couple of hours or so – without saving
Broken Sat Nav …Internal Light
Dear Blossom It was lovely for an open day visit to the University of Sussex today – dry, warm with a light breeze, bright and
Changing Seasons – Empty Nests 1
Dear Blossom It’s a very short one to you today. A very busy week has ended with a very long day today: I went along
The Power of Associations
Dear Blossom Today, it’s all about my best friend: the totally accepting, unconditionally loving and ever-ready-to-play Michael. I’ve got so much to say about Michael,
How Do You Handle that Voice in Your Head?
Dear Blossom What do you do when that sneering little voice in your head tries to drown you with moans and groans and questions to
Dissolving the Chokehold of Overwhelm
Dear Blossom I was very nearly going to skip writing you today simply because of a chokehold of overwhelm. I woke up too early today
To Plan or Not to Plan?
Dear Blossom So. What do you think? To plan or not to plan? What’s the point planning if life would only get in the way
I’m writing to you today because…
Dear Blossom I’m writing to you today because I’ve been wanting to write for so long, I’ve even started a few times… Lately, it’s been
Stop Being Lost – Rediscover Your Path
Dear Friend As it was my birthday, I couldn’t help getting in touch with you. A few years ago, the thought of an approaching birthday
Sleepwalking Through the Journey of Life
Travelling into London Holborn recently, I got on the train at Newbury Park and saw this gentleman stretched out on his back across 4 seats:
What would Jesus do about Coercive Control?
The season of joy is here: church bells are ringing, choirs are singing, gifts are being given. There are trees, lights, tinsels, mince pies, mulled
Is that door really locked? Is there really no way through?
Is that barrier really fixed? Is there really no going through that gate? Having taken an unscheduled but necessary break from blogging, the decision to
Could there be Treasure in your Trash?
Generally speaking, I’m a hoarder. I like to keep things ‘just in case’ I might need them later, or run into somebody who might need
Why Speaking Your Truth from Your Heart is so Vital!
Do you sometimes speak (or write) and find you are surprised by the things that you say? This is probably what the Christian bible means
Clear Communication is Essential to a Happy Volunteering!
As National Volunteers’ Week rolls along, I want to join in the celebrating of volunteers for all the great work they do, using their own
7 Lessons from Words with Friends
I started playing Words with Friends early this year and I am grateful to the friend that introduced it to me. I play it daily, often with
Is time your friend or your foe?
How do you see time? Is time your enemy or your friend? Time and tide wait for no one I’m strapped for time Time flies
How seriously should we take health and safety… in the home?
Most of us are aware of Health and Safety issues in the work place. It is one area of legislation for which both employer and